How to Plan Your After-Death Communication

January 26, 2021   -   ,


Sometimes the greatest gift you can give someone doesn’t come with a price tag. Planning your after-death communication costs only your time and emotional energy, yet the delight it will bring your loved ones for years to come is immeasurable.

What is After-Death Communication?

They are the pre-written messages distributed to your loved ones after your passing. After-death communication is essential for relaying your thoughts and feelings to and about your friends and family when you’re no longer here physically.

Some people feel it’s more appropriate to write these notes when they are older or have become ill. The Postage believes there is no better time than the present to start creating these messages.

Is Planning After-Death Communication Morbid?

Not at all! The Merriam Webster dictionary defines morbid as “abnormally susceptible to or characterized by gloomy or unwholesome feelings.” Planning your after-death communication is the opposite of such feelings. Instead, it’s a delightful act that brings comfort to your loved ones when you’re gone and a cathartic release for yourself as you assemble your thoughts.

Additionally, the planning of these messages isn’t entirely about you, the writer. You should consider the notes more like an act of love for the message recipients. Some of the most common reasons for planning after-death communication for your loved ones are:

  • Easing their pain, grief, and sometimes guilt
  • Ensuring they knew how you felt
  • Celebrating special occasions with them in spirit
  • Imparting strength as they navigate their lives

Planning Your After-Death Communication

Planning your after-death communication is simple to do! Here the basic guidelines that we’ll go over on how to plan your after-death communication

  1. Who Gets a Message?
  2. What Kind of Message Do You Want to Send?
  3. How Do You Keep Your Messages Safe?

1. Who Gets a Message?

Before you begin writing, determine the recipients of your messages. Knowing who you’re writing to help determine your tone and language. It also lets your heart guide exactly what you want to say. You can send a note to anyone you’d like, including:

  • Children
  • Significant others
  • Family members
  • Friends
  • Individuals at your workplace
  • Professionals that have overseen your care

2. What Kind of Message Do You Want to Send?

There is no wrong time or occasion to write these missives to your loved ones, but we also understand that you might need some inspiration. To give you some ideas, we have supplied some common events that might be worthy of a message to your friend and family:

Informative Messages: relay important details.
  • Share your funeral details
  • Any last wishes
Scheduled Events: regular celebrations with your family and friends
  • Birthdays
  • Anniversaries
  • Religious & cultural observances
  • Holidays such as:
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    • New Years
    • Valentines Day
    • Mother’s Day
    • Father’s Day
    • Thanksgiving
    • Christmas
Celebratory Messages: congratulating your loved ones on their accomplishments.
  • Weddings
  • Graduations
  • Births
Just-Because Messages: letting someone one that you care about them
  • Remind them you love them
  • Let them know you’re I’m thinking about them
  • Thank them for their role in your life
  • Remind them of an inside joke
  • Share your favorite memory of them
  • Send them a link to a song that reminds you of them
  • Give them a link to a secret photo album
  • Send your favorite poem or write one
  • Tell a funny story from your past

3. How Do You Keep Your Messages Safe?

After composing your message, you should ensure they are kept in a safe place. If you are creating your notes by hand, you must keep them away from hazards such as water and fire.

You can also draft and store your notes digitally. You can use a word processor to create your notes and store them on your computer or with a cloud service.

Whichever option you choose, you must designate one person who will access these notes. Once you provide instructions for this person, they can then distribute them to your loved ones on your behalf.

The Postage Makes Planning Your After-Death Communication Easy!

The Postage is an excellent tool for drafting and scheduling your after-death communication. You can prepare, schedule, and securely store your messages, and. The Postage ensures they will be safely delivered to your loved ones according to the schedule you create.

Here’s how you can plan the distribution of your correspondence with The Postage:

  1. Register for The Postage or Login to your account.
  2. Visit your messaging dashboard
  3. Select “Create a Message” or add a contact to receive your message.
  4. Select your message type. You can choose from “delegate delivery,” “send upon a specific date,” or “send upon death.”
    1. Delegate delivery will be delivered by the delegate(s) of your account. This is the best option for events and celebrations that don’t have a definite date, like weddings, graduations, and births. Additionally, you can leave notes to instruct your delegate(s) on how to deliver these messages.
    2. Send upon A specific date: You assign the date that The Postage will deliver your message to one of your loved ones.
    3. Send upon death: This message type is automatically triggered to send after your delegates have confirmed your passing with us.
  5. Type your message and save it. You can also attach an image to your message if you’d like.
  6. Review the message you have typed. Send yourself a test so you can preview what your message will look like.

Planning your after-death communication is a great way to capture your thoughts and pass them to your loved ones when they’ll need them most. Start collecting your memories and making arrangements to share them with The Postage today. You’ll never again have to leave words unsaid.